[No straight examples and no parallels with real people here]
First part of the unknown amount.
Some say - there are too many rudeness around us these days. I say - change yourself, and the world around you changes. The physics of the world works this way: what you think - comes true. Of course, there are some exceptions (prisons, psychiatric hospitals, etc) but these exceptions also follow the rules of the world, if you have a closer look.
We are - what we feel. Let me try to explain. Imagine: Winter. You’re standing somewhere in central Russia. Here’s the warmth of sun, somewhere in the middle of Siberian winter. You’re still standing in a damned cold snowy desert. And its extremely cold. You almost can’t feel your face, but here it comes - the warm ray of sun. Are you happy about it? Definitely yes! Now lets imagine we move to the other side of the Earth. Same time, but somewhere in Brazil. Hot jungle, tiny predatory insects swarming around, sweat is dripping all over your body… And the very same sun enlightens you with its warmth. Are you still happy about it? I really doubt it. Every single time something is happening to you - you analyze the environment and make your decision - whether you like it or not. And it’s your choice only. That’s why I always say - we are what we feel.
This simple concept gives us an incredible freedom to live and decide - what pisses us off, what makes us sad, what makes us happy, what makes us feel excitement. Let’s have a look to a young couple. They are just getting used to each other. Mentally dancing, moving around, back and forth, having a closer look to each other. Let’s suggest, that a boy (of course, who else could be wrong?) makes a mistake. We look at this as a starting point of a conflict, that can be avoided. And here comes a very special moment to a girl (or whoever in this crazy modern world he might be with) to decide - what expression to choose, how to feel about it, what to say and how to react. Usually, impulsiveness of most of girls, or the difference of ways we think, makes her feel offended, even if she understands that it was not the fatal fault. It’s extremely necessary to remember that it's her very own choice - what to feel: anger or compassion. Every conflict starts because of misunderstanding. Thats the point where conflict start its escalation. This two-sided situation still can be solved with peace, if both sides stop for a moment and take their precious time to think of the person on the other side. And here they are, passed through all the misunderstandings, here they are caring of each other. We look at a couple, that lives together for a long while. They are very accustomed to each other and trust each other completely. We admire them a lot. They worth admiring. They’ve come a long way to it and now they do understand each other, like no one else. And it all could have ended there, in the very beginning, with the first boy’s mistake. This example has no purpose to describe every particular situation, of course. Even in a couple's relationships. There are cheating, lies, and lots of other unforgettable and inexcusable things. But even though the concept of this world is: only we decide how to feel about anything that happens to us, and decide whether should we multiply this feelings or not.
To be continued...